Daughters

As  I continue to use the word IMPORTANT, I think of my daughter. It goes back to when she was a teenager and how she met a boy. A boy who was not right for her. Later became pregnant with that boys child. I would not trade my granddaughter for anything but at the time this boy made my daughter feel IMPORTANT, but it was the wrong kind of feeling IMPORTANT. I have to sit here and think what did she see in him? She was 14 or 15 years and she thought she getting the moon. These boys think they have such authority. I think back to when my father made me feel IMPORTANT, wait, did I say my father making me feel important? Oh ya, it is how he treated me through bad behavior, that is all I knew. My daughter lost her father when she was at the age of four years old and therefore never really knew what it was like to feel important by her dad. It was my job to make her feel important. I think I tried to make her feel important but I can't down myself because I tried. I look down upon myself because I look at why did she get involved with this boy, who was nothing but trouble. Well, folks, I 've come to realize that once a boy gets into a girls heart it's tough to remove that boy from the heart. He feels he has this authority over the girl and what he says goes. Girls think they love the boy but down deep inside they are scared. They are scared to leave or she will not find anybody else. What the girl does not know that there is ~Life~ beyond this boy. The girl feels important because she has been beaten, raped, doing drugs with her boyfriend, sex, amongst the other things that comes into her life. She feels if she does all these things she will feel IMPORTANT. If only I do it better, he won't do all these things to me - WRONG! It gets worse.
It is my duty as a parent to recognize and see who my daughter likes and the other girls she hangs around. I think it is important for a child to become his or her own but as parent we have to show our daughters what it is like to feel IMPORTANT by a boy and to be a person. I encourage parents to walk with your daughter and talk about what does IMPORTANT look like to her? IMPORTANT will look different in many ways and today my daughter can look at IMPORTANT in a good way. Even though she went through some hard times, she had to grow and figure some things out on her own. I always supported her but when she fell, I was there to catch her. Sometimes it was bad with my daughter and her boyfriend and you have step back. There is a point there is nothing I could do except be there for her. I could not make her do anything because she was beyond the point of not listening. I am in a nice place right now because I let my daughter know she is IMPORTANT and she knows she is IMPORTANT. She still has to fight with the ex-boyfriend and have a custody battle but she looks back and thinks what a stupid time that was in her life. She know that her ex thinks it's all about him and he has no clue what it is like to feel IMPORTANT.
As we deal with the law in this matter with my daughter and the ex-boyfriend, I still wonder why and ask GOD why? I pray everyday and know GOD is in control. I have to be honest, my faith is not strong but I look to GOD everyday for guidance and pray to strengthen my faith.

~ Until next time - Go make it a great day!!